Young B.C. families are having fewer children, opting out of parenthood as cost of living skyrockets

Everything seems to be getting more expensive.Food,gasolineandhousing pricesare on the rise while paycheques are slow to keep pace.

The CBC News series Priced Out explainswhy you're paying more at the cash registerand how Canadians are coping with the high cost of everything.

Arden Matthews is 26, engaged to their longtime partner, and has a well-paying job in Vancouver.

Buying a home and settling down to start a family would be a natural next step,but Matthews says the thought of havinganother mouth to feed is out of reach as the cost of living in B.C. climbs.

"It's a conversation that my partner and I have frequently.We can't really justify even having concrete plans to have a family because the idea of home ownership, or even being able to rent a place with enough space in it to raise a kid in Metro Vancouver seems like a fantasy it doesn't seem like a real possibility to us at all."

Matthews says it's a sentiment that's become more common amongfriends and co-workers of the same age a nagging feeling that having children will be financially unsustainable, even 10years down the road.

"No one talks about having kids. We all expect maybe one person in a friend group is going to ultimately end up having a kid or two and everyone will be closely involved in that, but that's the closest we can imagine."

Matthews isn't alone. Data from Statistics Canada showed 19per cent of Canadians age19 to 45 say they plan on having fewer children than they did prior to the pandemic.

Another 14 per cent say they've delayed having children, citing economic pressures and the rising cost of living.

'It's just not realistic'

Rising costs are hitting young families from just about every direction. In January, Canada's inflation rate hit a 30-year highof 4.8 per cent.

And Greater Vancouver hasthe highest monthly rentsamong metropolitan areas in Canada with at least a million people, at an average of $2,498 for a two-bedroom condo. That pocketbook pressure is forcing families to have tough conversations about how many children they can afford.

Parents aren't justpriced out of B.C.'s notoriously expensive cities.

In Campbell River on Vancouver Island,29-year-old Danielle Gaudetdreamed of raising a big family. But after giving birth to her now two-and-half-year-old son Theodore, she says she worries having more children would keep her from providing her son with the lifestyle she dreamed of giving him.

"Diapers have gone up fiveto 10 dollars since I've started buying [them], it's just incredible and I can't keep up," said Gaudet.

"He's such an energetic little guy, but we can't afford gymnastics, we can't afford sports lessons. I'dlove to have more children, but it's just not realistic. It really bothers me that my son is going to grow up without siblings and not know that bond that so many people have with their siblings."

'Very realistic conversations'

In July 2021, B.C. became thefirst province to sign on to the Liberalpledge that would spend$27.2 billion over five yearsto subsidize daycares.

But Yuting Hsu, a midwife and mother of twoin Surrey, saysgovernment promises have done little to ease the immense pressure on parents, evendual-income families like her own.

"We love children and we wanted to have more" she said, adding she felt fortunateshe was able to use cloth diapers and breastfeed, which cut down costs.

"We still feel the stress financially. I can't imagine for families who need to buy disposable diapers and formula. I have friends who don'thave kids and are considering whether to have kids or not, and we have very realistic conversations around this topic."

At 26, Matthews says they know they have time to contemplate starting a family but trying to plan years down is difficult when the future feels so uncertain.

"Every year there's a new reason to think about next week and not 10 years from now ... there's just a very solid possibility that there will be a much, much smaller generation in this city because people can't afford kids."

Canada's fertility rate has been steadily declining since 2008, hitting a record low of 1.40 children per woman in 2020.Gaudetsays she worries about the implications of afuture with fewer children.

"Children are our future and if we're not having babies then where are we going?"

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