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Fear of missing out? Forget FOMO. FOGO, or fear of going out, is real and can be debilitating

FOGO, or fear of going out, is akin to agoraphobia, and experts say for some, the pandemic has amplified low-level anxiety into dread at the thought of leaving their homes.

Low-level anxiety amplified for some by pandemic, experts say

People with FOGO should slowly ease back into social situations according to counsellor Mark Antczak. (Ben Nelms/CBC)

For many of us, this weekend's sunny skies and warmer temperatures are a chance to finally bust out the summer wardrobe and head to the beach.But for some,FOGO, or fear of going out, can cause debilitating anxiety.

Sally Chaster of Victoria, B.C., says her fears around contractingCOVID-19 while outside the safetyof her home grew to the point she couldn't leave her property. Worse still, therealizationfilled her with self-judgment.

"I'd think, 'Why can't you do it? Look at all these other people.They can go outside.They're happy,'" she said.

Some experts say choosing to stay inside our homes can seem like a valid justification during a worldwide pandemic, especially as case numbers climb and the rise in variants puts us at even greater risk.

But Mark Antczak, a registered clinical counsellor with Anxiety Canada, says people need to push back against their fears.

"We get immediate gratification and relief from avoiding the things we are worried about. But then it comes boomeranging back with a vengeance," said Antczak.

FOGO, which affects all ages, is a sub-clinical form of agoraphobia, according to Antczak. People with agoraphobia avoidsituations due to fear of having a panic attack or other anxiety-related feelings.

Experts say people should push back against the beliefs that feed their anxieties. (Ben Nelms/CBC)

At the start of the pandemic,Antczak says, many people with low-level anxiety were almost relieved they were being encouraged to stay home.

But over time, without the routine of doing things to keep us mentally healthy like meeting with friends, going to the gym or gathering for celebrations our ability to cope in social situations can become threatened.

Anxiety Canada has an appcalled MindShift that teachesusers how to shift thought patterns, get groundedand challenge harmful thoughts.

Push back against the belief

Antczak suggests people worktheirway up slowly, so if meeting on a patio seems too intense take a walk to the restaurant and explore it from the outside. Or make plans with just one friend and go to a more relaxed environment.

"Push back against the belief that feeds all this fear in the first place," he said.

Chaster says since the onset of the pandemic her fear of going out grew into agoraphobia. She's in counselling and is practising mindfulness techniques to help with heranxiety.

And since the weather has warmed up, she's been able to step outside her comfort zone for 30 minute walks with her husband andkitten.

"I'm trying to really work on mindful self-compassion and treat myself without judgment," she said.