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How to make mealtimes more manageable for picky eaters and parents

Demanding chicken fingers for every meal may not be an ideal diet - but most picky eaters will likely expand their palate.

The dinner table can turn into a battlefield if you have a selective eater in the house

Most picky eaters will learn to love more foods.
Being picky can be a phase for many kids. Nutritionists and dietitians advise playing the long game, continuing to expose children to different foods, and not to get too discouraged by uneaten meals. (Shutterstock / Mcimage)

This story is part of Amy Bell'sParental Guidancecolumn, which airs on CBC Radio One'sThe Early Edition.


It seems like every family has at least one picky eater. Most toddlers go through a selective stage when they are about 12-18 months old and start to come out of it by the time they hit kindergarten.

But for some,it becomes a never-ending battle that kids seemingly never grow out of.This can be a source of stress and shame for many parents,especially when eating beyond the confines of their own home.

Jenn Messina, a wellness coach and dietitian who is well versed in the world of picky eaters, says parents need to know they aren't the only ones fighting to feed their kids.

"You're not alone. This happens a lot more than this is talked about," she said.

A first rule of thumb, she says, is that parents shouldn't always serve only what their children want.

"Make sure you are serving foods you eat and like regularly," she said."Ifthey're eating chicken fingers and fries and you're eating stir fry that's not going to be a great food exposure for them."

Win the war, not the battle

If you'redeep in the trenches of dinnertime battles,you need to play the long game.Patience isn't exactly what a frustrated parent has in abundance when they've cooked another meal that remains uneaten, but you can't admit defeat too early, says occupational therapist Lauren Hershfield.

Hershfield is also the co-founder of The Feeding Group,a collective of dietitians, occupational therapists and speech language pathologists that work together to get to the root of picky eatingand find the best ways to help families.

She says it can take up to 15 positive interactions with a new food before a child finally accepts it. But, she adds, you should manage your expectations:sometimes just playing with the food can make a child curious about a new flavour.

"This may mean making faces out of cut veggies,making roads out of peppers, pretending to be animals," she suggests."This increases curiosity and just opens the eyes that food doesn't have to be stressful and we can take play-based steps to get there."

While this can seem tedious, time consuming and frustrating at times, it's important. Our relationships with food and mealtimes last a lifetime, and need to have a positive and strong foundation.

Pickiness can be a sign of more complex issues

Of course, its very important to make sure your picky child is still getting the nutrients they need to grow and learn.

Loss of weight, mood swings and cutting out entire food groups are all signs thatparents need to re-evaluate how they're handling selective eating.For some kids, extreme reactions and aversionto certain foods can be a symptom of more complex issues such as autism or ADHD.

"Useyourintuitionsaround picky eating. There's a lot of things that could be going on that we want toinvestigate,"Messina says.

"For example, sayyour child never mouthed toys as an infant ... or tags on their clothes bother them. I would definitely belooking into talking to a pediatric occupationaltherapist to see if there is sensory-specific stuff going on."

Don't cater to picky eaters

It was when I patiently peeled a hot dog wiener for my son yes, peeled the skin off a hot dog so he would eat it that I realized how deeply I was catering to my son's dietarywhims.

But I remembered too many meals growing up where I tearfully choked down what was placed in front of me while I was reminded of all the starving orphans in the world, and I was determined not to put my kids through that.

"I think we all carry our own food trauma because of what's happened to us as children," says Messina. "And we realize maybe we have a difficult relationship with foodbecause we were rewarded with sweets, or couldn't leave the table and were punished.

"Ido think parents now realize that isn't the way they want to feed their kids."

There is so much pressure to be perfect:to have perfect kids that eat perfectly prepared meals.But Hershfieldsays nutrition is not just about one day.

"Children have really good eating days andchildren have really bad eating days. Just like we do," she said.

If yourtoddler only eats broccoli when you call it "dinosaur trees," so be it. Your child survived offjuice boxes and goldfish crackers today? Fine.

Focus on modelling and cultivating a healthy relationship with all sorts of foods and cultivating some culinary curiosity. Childhood has so many phases that pass, and hopefully your picky eater will turn into a fantasticfoodie before you run out of patience and chicken nuggets.