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Social media anxiety, community expectations among mental health stresses for students

University coursework is just one of the many pressures post-secondary students contend with on campus.

These students are speaking out about their battles with mental health in the hope it helps others rise above

Students speak out on mental health pressures

2 years ago
Duration 1:04
University is one of many sources of stress for students. From family and community pressure to social media anxiety, these students are speaking out on what weighs down their mental health hoping it would help others rise above the same challenges.

In high school, Noor-Ul Ain was faced with a difficult situation.

Her aunt, who lives in Pakistan, had suffered her third heart attack, and Ul Ain wantedto support her family.

When she asked about taking time off from school to make the trip across the world to help her relatives, she says she had to convince her principal that the stress was taking a toll on her mental health.

"She told me that my gradesactually mattered more, which was terrible because it's like,I'd hope that you'd really understand my situation," said Ul Ain.

The now 19-year-old was able to be present for her family and keep her grades up, eventually making her way to the University of Calgary to study kinesiology.

But that experience made her an advocate for better mental health practices, and speaking out about the pressures students face.

Peer pressure in the South Asian community

For Manahil Hussain, the heaviest pressure she feels is theneed to succeed.

She says going into university, she was worried while thinking about how to fit work, school, extracurriculars, and volunteering into her schedule.

The 19-year-old psychology studentsays coming from a South Asian immigrant family, she internalized expectations of success.

"They've sacrificed so much for me that I have to do better in school. If I don't do better in school, I'm a failure,I'm a disappointment," she said.

In the South Asian community, Hussain says, parents can sometimes project their goals onto their children.

"That was a really huge toll on me, that I have to make my parents proudI was trying to make them happy instead of making myself happy."

Faryal Qureshi is also Pakistani-Canadian, but says she's experienced a different struggle in the community.

The 20-year-oldsays many South Asian parents come from less privileged backgrounds which leads to a taboo in openly discussing mental health.

"Essentially it kind of comes from the idea that if you, I mean if you have a good quality of life, if you have a decent standard of living, how could you possibly be depressed?"

Aside from the stigma surrounding the topic, Qureshisays a visit back home opened her eyes to the pressures on women and girls to looka certain way.

Three young women stand on a university campus.
From left to right, University of Calgary students Faryal Qureshi, Manahil Hussain and Noor-Ul Ain are speaking out about their own struggles with mental health in the hope it helps others experiencing similar challenges. (Jo Horwood/CBC News)

"There were little girls that would come up to me and be like, 'I wonder how much I weigh, I think I'm too fat,' and they're like five, six-year-olds," explained Qureshi, before recalling another "gruesome" example.

"My friend's mother was actually from a specific village, and what the girls would do was that they would actually starve themselves 'til their collarbones would be prominent again."

While those stories surprised her at the time, she says sayssocial media is causing the same stress on young students in Calgary.

Social media anxiety

Between filters and the curated presentations of happy lives on social media, Qureshi says the pressure to be 'perfect' is detrimental to young people's mental health.

"You feel like you have to be a certain way, you have to fit into a specific category, and there's this mold made for you, a very tight mold that you have to fit into," she said.

"And I know specifically, for a lot of girls especially,it encourages eating disorders."

Qureshisays it's sad to think that some peoplelook in the mirror and hate what they see, and she believessocial media plays a big role in making people feel that way.

Additionally, Qureshi says social media is "extremely addicting", becoming a drain on her time and energy that leads to a backlog of tasks in turn, puttingpressure on her mental health.

"It wasn't depressing me or anything, but it was turning my brain to mush," she said.

"I wasn't able to go through my daily activities, I felt exhausted. It's a really weird feeling because when you're when you're getting all these like dopamine rushes ... it's a super exhausting experience."

And when she did fall into the trap of scrolling for a couple of hours, she says she ended up with an overwhelming sense of guilt.

"My life is garbage. What am I gonna do? I'm a terrible human being.I'm gonna be homeless. I'm never gonna have a job," said Qureshi, recounting the invasive thoughts she would be left with after spending time online.

"My sister actually took my phone away and she put a password on it and I was not allowed to look at it for like a month."

Findinghelp

While her experience in high school may have inspired her mental health advocacy, Ul Ain says the university seems bettercommitted to helping students struggling with mental health.

She says there are plenty of places to access help on campus, like student-run clubs and facilities through the school itself, but there are still some pieces missing.

"I haven't really received a lot of support from administration or anything, so that's something that I do kind ofyearn for the most, I do want that type of support from teachers and professors because I lack that a lot," she said.

While on-campusresources exist, all three of these young students agree they can behard to find.

They want to see those supports better communicated so that no one is left tracking down help when they're already at their lowest point.

"Youhave to grasp your students attention tomake them feel like they're safe and comfortable to talk to you," said Ul Ain.


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