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Heartbreak of miscarriage leads Cape Breton woman to provide comfort to others

After a miscarriage in 2019, Petra Buis started an initiative to help other people experiencing miscarriage and pregnancy loss by providing them with a small measure of comfort.

Petra Buis started the Forget Me Not initiative at Cape Breton Regional Hospital

A woman smiles for a photo while holding a bag with flowers on it. She stands next to a sign that says, 'We all have reasons to give.'
Petra Buis approached the Cape Breton Regional HospitalFoundation with the idea of providing comfort bags to those who have experienced miscarriage or infant loss. (Paige Westbury)

A Cape Breton woman is working to bring comfort to others who have experienced miscarriage or infant loss.

Petra Buis of River Ryan, N.S., had a miscarriagein 2019and said she was fortunate to have a supportive networkto help her cope.

It was the first of three miscarriages she would have.

Buissaid she would come home from procedures to find flowers, food, snacks and other comfort items left by family and friends.

But shesaid it made her think that others going through similar experiences might not be lucky enough to have the level of support she had.

"What I wanted to do is really be able to give back to our community on the island andhelp women and people in need during such a difficult time," she told CBC Radio'sInformation Morning Cape Breton.

Buis said she approached the Cape Breton Regional HospitalFoundation with the idea of providing comfort bags.

The foundation already had a similar program for mothers in need, Buis said, so theForget Me Not initiative was accepted and moved ahead quickly.

Buis saidthere is a stigma around miscarriage and pregnancy loss and many people feel alone and ashamed.

"There isa small message within the bag just to kind of say, you're not alone, you're not forgotten about ... that baby and that loss is not forgotten about," she said.

Buis said the name of the initiative was chosen because the forget-me-not flower is a symbol of miscarriage and pregnancy loss.

A woman with blond hair sits at a table, smiling. On the table are hot and cold compresses, socks, tea, Tylenol, panty liners, pads and a bath bomb.
Buis says 150 comfort bags have been given out under the program since it started more than 18 months ago. (Brittany Wentzell/CBC)

The bags feature a picture of a forget-me-not flower on them andinclude hot and cold compresses, comfy socks, herbal tea, Tylenol, panty liners and pads and a bath bomb.

Since it started in December 2021, the program has given out 150 packages, Buis said.

Donations needed

Jillian Delorey, a social worker who works with families experiencing miscarriage and infant loss, told Information Morning Cape Breton the bags are not only appreciated by patients but also by staff who have a chance to give some measure of comfort at a difficult time.

"They're entering these appointments withwhat they think is a baby.... They might be anxious about it, but reality is they're leaving with a loss," Delorey said.

"This is just some comfort for them and something for them to leave with to show that they aren't alone."

Deloreysaid providing the bags should be standard practice in hospitals.

But Buis said the program has only raised enough money for 60 more packages.

"We are at the point where we are kind of desperate and reallyin need of donationsto continue this program," she said.

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With files from Information Morning Cape Breton

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