Mom pleads for consistent treatment to deal with son's violent outbursts - Action News
Home WebMail Friday, November 22, 2024, 03:40 PM | Calgary | -10.4°C | Regions Advertise Login | Our platform is in maintenance mode. Some URLs may not be available. |
Ottawa

Mom pleads for consistent treatment to deal with son's violent outbursts

The mother of a seven-year-old boy whose violent outbursts have repeatedly gotten him kicked out of school is pleading for consistent treatment for her son instead of the hodgepodge of therapy he's been receiving, often with mixed results.

Ben, 7, has been suspended from school 8 times for attacking other kids, throwing furniture

Natalee Rubec says her son, Ben, 7, is a loving boy who needs ongoing, consistent therapy to deal with his frequent violent outbursts. (Jean Delisle/CBC )

The mother of a seven-year-old boy whose violent outbursts have repeatedly gotten him kicked out of school is pleading for consistent treatment for her son instead of the hodgepodge of therapy he's been receiving, often with mixed results.

Since September, Ben has been suspended eight times from Regina Street Alternative School in Ottawa's Britannia neighbourhood, where he's in Grade 2, for attacking other children, throwing furniture and running away.

"Itwas really dangerous for Ben, the teachers andthe other kids. He could not function in school," said Ben's mother, Natalee Rubec.

At home, Ben's outbursts were often directed toward his two older brothers and sister.When he lashes out, Rubecoften has to restrainhim on the floor. She's suffered broken fingers and bruised ribs as a result.

We got on this treadmill of waitingfor more treatment, and Ben would trash the house. We have a graveyard of broken televisions in the basement.- Natalee Rubec

"We've been struggling to manage as a family for a long time," said Rubec, who is divorced.

Ben's violent behaviour began three years ago,Rubec said.When he was in Grade 1,a psychological assessment revealed he was gifted, but also had attention deficit hyper-activity disorder.

He was prescribed medicationto control his outbursts, including an anti-psychotic drug.In December, he was diagnosed with disruptive mood dysregulation disorder, a condition characterized by frequent, angryoutbursts.

"Ben is cheerful, creative and really smart," Rubec said."But hestruggles with controllinghis anger, which can turn violent."

Ben wriggles into his 'body sock,' a sensory cocoon typically used by children with autism and anxiety disorders. (Jean Delisle/CBC )

Fight or flight

When CBCvisited Ben at home recentlyhe rarely sat still, jumpingaround the living room from couch to floor, stoppingonlyto hug his mother tightly around her neck.

When Ben wanted to open a bag of soup noodles, Rubecreached up to a kitchen cupboardfor a locked box containing severalpairs of scissors.

When he gets worked up, Ben can crawl into his blue"body sock," a sensory cocoon made of stretchy fabric that's typically used by children with autism or anxiety disorders.

Search for consistent therapy a constant stress, Ottawa mom says

5 years ago
Duration 1:08
Natalee Rubec says shes spent years looking for a steady source of information and therapy for her son Ben, who struggles with violent outbursts and has difficulty in school.

"He goes inside and can push really hard against the sock with his legs, hands and feet," Rubec explained."Ben is in fight-or-flight [mode] 100 per cent of the time, so I think thesock has a calming effect on him."

Ben receives weeklyhome visits from a worker withCrossroads Children's Mental Health Centre who spends several hours working through strategies to de-escalate his violent impulsesand help him deal with his anger.The visits, which began in January after Ben was fast-tracked for the treatment, typically end after three months.

See the sensory tools Ben uses to help calm his emotions

5 years ago
Duration 1:02
Natalee Rubec and her son Ben show CBC News some of the sensory items that help Ben regulate his emotions, including a body sock and a compression vest.

A dark time

The home visits followan especially difficult period for Ben and his family, and not just at school.

Last summer, Ben's tantrums escalated to the point where Rubechad to take him to CHEO on seven different occasions. When his rage became uncontrollable, she called police.

"We got on this treadmill of waitingfor more treatment, and Ben would trash the house. We have a graveyard of broken televisions in the basement," Rubec said.

That was in stark contrast to the previous nine months, which Ben spent in CHEO's Steps to Success, a day program run out of St. Luke School where he had consistent access to a counsellor and psychiatrist. Rubec said her son thrived in the small-class setting.

"Ben really settledand he had all the elements to get through the day," she said.

'I know how you can get someone to believe it make them live with us for a month and they would see,' Ben tells his mom. (Jean Delisle/CBC )

But the program ended last March, once Ben was deemed to have reached all the behavioural goals that had been set out for him.

In June, CHEO told Rubec her son was on await-listto see a psychiatrist as an outpatient, but as recently as January she was told the wait would be another four to six months.

She's worried whatever benefits her son gained from the Steps to Success program and the Crossroads visits will be lost as he bounces from one form of therapy to another, with long gaps in between.

"This all started when he was four, and now he's almost eight and we haven't really started treating him yet for what's really wrong with him," Rubecsaid."There'sa lot of people who want to help Ben, but there is a bit of passing the buck."

Waiting game

"Thewait time is so stressful," said Natasha McBrearty, associate executive director at Crossroads Children's Mental Health Centre, where the typical wait for in-home treatment is now eight months to a year, and where the number of families waiting for that treatment has nearly doubled to more than 1,900 in just five years.

"It breaks my heart because I know how frustrating it is for aparent who is really trying tocobble the best they can for theirchild."

Natasha McBrearty of Crossroads Children's Mental Health Centre says it can take kids like Ben up to a year to get the in-home therapy they need. (Jean Delisle/CBC )

Crossroads, which is 90 per cent provincially supported, has not had a significant funding increase to meet the rapidly growingdemand for treatment, McBrearty said.

"The secret formulaor the magic is early identification and early intervention," she said. "But do we have the capacity to intervene when we need to? Well, I still think we have a ways to go."

According to a report released last month by Children's Mental Health Ontario, which advocates for more government investment in quality mental health services, there are currently 28,000 children and youth waiting for mental services across the province, compared to an estimated 12,000 in 2017.

The agency recommends increasing annual funding to community child and youth mental health services by $150 million to ensure young people wait no longer than 30 days for mental health treatment.

Walking in their shoes

Joanne Lowe, executive director of Ottawa's Youth Services Bureau, couldn't comment on Ben's case specifically, but said the family's circumstances are all too familiar.

"Sadly, that happens, and it wouldnot be atypical for a young person in our system which continues to be fragmented,"Lowe said. "It requires us to actually do things differently because access is a huge, huge problem."

Lowe is leading a new service model called Kids Come First, announced by the province in December to improve access to mental health and addiction services for children.

She said there's currently a patchwork of 17 different organizations providing treatment options in the Ottawa area, but they need to be better integrated and they need to do a much better job at keeping tabs on kids like Ben.

"This is something that we heard very loudly from caregivers," Lowe said.

Last summer, Rubec had to take Ben to CHEO several times, and even had to call police when she could no longer deal with his violent outbursts. (Jean Delisle/CBC )

Rubec said she's already exhausted her workplace benefits for private psychological care, and is reaching the end of her rope.

"It's super isolating, and nobody can walk in our shoes and understand the fatigueand the emotional toll it takes every day," she said.

Ben, squirming inside his body sock, offers a suggestion

"I know how you can get someone to believe it make them live with us for a month and they would see."