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Intimate partner violence survivors stress need for bystander intervention

Survivors of intimate partner violence testified about their abuse during an ongoing coroner's inquest examining the murders of three rural Ontario women by a man with a known history of violence.

Warning: This story contains disturbing details of abuse

Portraits of three women.
The Inquest into the murders of Anastasia Kuzyk, Nathalie Warmerdam and Carol Culleton made 86 recommendations. The Office of the Chief Coroner expects to hear back on the status of those recommendations in mid-February. (CBC News)

Warning: This story contains disturbing details of abuse.

After Heather Imming's longtime husband struck her with a tire iron and left her in their yard in Carleton Place, Ont.,neighbourstook her in while community members watchedher house at night so that she could sleep without fear of more injury.

"I want that for every victim, for every woman," Imming said Monday.

Imming was offering the raw perspective of a survivor of intimate partner violenceduring the 11th day of a coroner's inquest examining the killingsof three women.

On Sept. 22, 2015, a man with a known history of gender-based violencemurdered Carol Culleton, Anastasia Kuzyk and Nathalie Warmerdamin and around Renfrew County,after repeatedly breaching the conditions of his probation without reprimand.

Inquest jurors, who are hearing from experts and first-hand witnesses, are being tasked with recommending changes to policies and protocols to better protect and support survivors of intimate partner violencein rural communities in thefuture.

Immingsaid the abuse she suffered in the 1990s from her husband of 15 years started with pushes and shoves, then escalated to strangulation and, finally, the attack outside her home that left her with permanent brain damage.

"He threw his tire iron aside and used his thumbs to try and remove my left eye. He said to me that if I can't see him in the courtroom, I can't identify him," she recalled.

Seeking dangerous offender status

Immingadvocated successfully to have her husband designated a dangerous offender, she told the inquest. He died in prison in 2002 following a second conviction for intimate partner violence, against a different partner.

"I would love to see them utilize thedangerous offender application more," she said."I think it should be not so onerous for the police and Crown to [do that]."

Heather Imming, a survivor of intimate partner violence, testified about the abuse she suffered from her late husband during a coroner's inquest seeking to prevent future incidents of gender-based violence. (courtesy Lanark County Interval House and Community Support )

A psychologist who reviewed the case of the man who murdered Culleton, Kuzykand Warmerdam hascalled on Ontario's Ministry of the Attorney General to developteams of experienced Crown prosecutors who could be consulted on potential dangerous offender designations for high-risk perpetrators of intimate partner violence.

The murdererhad been convicted of intimate partner violence against Kuzyk and Warmerdamand stalked Culletonbefore his killing rampage, the inquest has heard.

Ontario's probation and parole service concluded after the murders it would have been "reasonable" to consider whetherthe man needed more intensive supervision while he was out on probation.

"It's thelevel of dangerousness they need to be looking at, rather than the list of convictions," Imming said of dangerous offender applications.

The 5 Ds of Intervention

While Imming said community support helped get her through her ordeal, shesaid people witnessed her abuse but never said anything to her.

"I wish they had,"she said.

"After I was hurt, my neighbour next door to me said that when I left for [a]period of time, they thought I was buried in the backyard. So they obviously knew something."

Julie S. Lalonde, who also testified at the inquest on Monday, said there are ways for bystanders to step in safely when they witness a person being abused.

Lalonde, originally from Sudbury,dated a man for two years before she ended the relationship. She said he stalked her for more than a decade after that breakup. Eventually, her stalker died.

"I fundamentally believe the community is the answer to most of our social ills, but particularly gender-based violence," she testified.

Lalondethen outlined the "5 Ds of Intervention" she teaches in workshops:

  • Distract, which could be as simple as purposely spilling a drink ifsomeone is being harassed at a bar in order to create a distraction and break the tension.
  • Delegate, which means alerting a person of authority.
  • Document, which involves keeping notes and footage of any abuse.
  • Delay, which calls for waiting until it's safe and checking in with the victim.
  • Direct, which entailscreating a "safety bubble" between the victim and the abuser.

"If there are multiple people around and some of the other ones can go and have a conversation with that individual and try to reason with them, great," Lalonde said of the last step.

"But if I have to make a choice between educating you and protecting you, I want you to always go towards protecting. That is the most important element."

Julie S. Lalonde, a victim of stalking, outlined ways bystanders can safely step in when they witness someone being abused. (Taylor Hermiston)

At the same time, Lalondecautionedthat survivors are often wrongly put on a pedestal as an example of how others should look or act.

"I speak from a place of power, because I've done a lot of work to get better. But that doesn't mean that I am better, more resilient or stronger or smarter than women who are not here today who should be here today."

The inquest will continue with more witnesses on Tuesday. Jurors are expected to begin deliberating on their potential recommendations on Friday.