Mother, daughter reunite after COVID-19 kept them apart for months

CBC Ottawa is not using Roxanne and Kalie'slast names to protect the identity of Kalie, who lives in foster care.

They spoke every day on the phone, but Roxannesays nothing compares to seeing her 13-year-old daughter Kalie in person.

"It's never the same.I want her beside me so I can touch her. She's my daughter," she said one day last month, with Kaliefinally by her side after nearly four months apart.

Kalielives with a foster family in Gatineau. Ordinarily, she would travel across the border most weekendsto see her mom, who lives in an affordable housing community run by the Multifaith Housing Initiative in Ottawa's south end.

But when the pandemic hit, Quebec shut its borders to non-essential travel. Even when they were reopened, the pairstayed apart to protect the health of Kalie's foster family.

On July 10, after nearly four months apart the two were finally reunited.

"I had been missing [my mom], even though I called her every day. I just wanted to see her in person," said Kalie.

Kalie was placed in foster care several years ago at a time when Roxanne felt she couldn't care for her properly. She's doing well in current living situation, and both mother and daughter agree it's best for her to continue there.

The day of their reunion, Kalie's foster mother dropped her off at Roxanne's home, where Roxanne was waiting outside. Even though the two wanted to be cautious, Kalie couldn't help buthug her mom.

Mother and daughter reunited after four months apart during pandemic

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Ottawa resident Roxanne describes what it was like to be reunited with her daughter, who lives in foster care, after nearly four months of separation. CBC Ottawa is not using Roxannes last name to protect the identity of her daughter.

"She got out of the car, and she didn't even do one step, and she was around my neck," Roxanne laughed.

"It felt like everything was back where it once [had] been," Kalie said. "Before the coronavirus happened. And before all the madness."

Separated by COVID-19

For much of the pandemic, Roxannehas been separated from not just her daughter, but also the rest of her family.

She has an adult son who lives with her 10-year-old grandsonin Kanata. Roxanne initially stayed away out of concern for herson's health, as he has only one lung and has been working in a busy warehouse throughout COVID-19.

Though they finally met in person in June, they are still taking precautions."We still don't see each other like we want to," said Roxanne, adding her son remains scared of going outside.

Roxanne also must keep her distance from her mother, who tested positive for COVID-19 in May and only got a negative test result last week.

She is living in a long-term care home in Quebec. Because Roxanne's father is recovering from cancer, and is worried for his own health, he wasn't able to visit either.

"It's very difficult for everybody at the moment," said Roxanne.

Despite these limitations, Roxanne was recently able to get together with both her son and daughter for the first time at a nearby park.

While she said it felt good to have the familytogether, she also felt nervous about getting too close to her son, and that was disappointing.

"It seems like we're not as close as we were before," Roxanne said. "I don't think that's true, but that's how it feels."

For comfort,Roxanne has turned to her garden, saying the "satisfaction of seeing what I'm doing and what comes out of it" helps take her mind off her worries.

When Kalie finally returned to Roxanne's home, one of the first things they did was visit the community gardenso Roxanne could show Kalie her tomatoes.

"They're looking healthy and growing," Kalie said.

"I'm really appreciating the time I'm having right now," saidRoxanne, smiling at her daughter beside her. "Just hopefully everything [becomes] better, right? That's all. One day at a time."