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I am not a wheelchair

Lisa Freeman is tired of having to speak up when people refer to her as "a wheelchair" the inanimate object she uses. She writes about why language and treatment of people who use wheelchairs matters.

When people refer to me as an inanimate object, I feel dismissed and dehumanized

I am not a wheelchair

2 years ago
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Lisa Freeman speaks about why language and treatment of people who use wheelchairs matters.

This First Person article is the experience of Lisa Freeman, a person who splits her time between Ottawa and Montreal and uses a wheelchair. For more information about CBC's First Person stories, please seethe FAQ.

While it might seem obvious because, of course, I'm not an inanimate object or an artificial intelligence writing this column, people refer to me as a thing "a wheelchair" in myriadeveryday situations from riding the bus to returning library books.

Perhaps if you use a mobility device, you might be nodding knowinglyhaving heard this phrasedirected your way.

Or perhaps you're remembering a time when you wanted to help out and let a bus driver know "awheelchair" needed to get off, and now you're feeling a bit uncomfortable.

It makes me uncomfortable and sometimes frustrated, sometimes angry when people refer tome as a wheelchair.It feels as if they are not seeing me as a person, but as a thing.

A woman under a warm blanket.
Lisa Freeman curls up under a blanket in her preferred reading spot. (Brandon Findlay)

An obstacle at the library

I visit the library frequently, and carry a few books on my lap. I also havea few in the back of thewheelchair when I go to return the books at the book drop.

It takes me a minute to get them out, and I've overheard people direct children to "wait for thewheelchair" to finish before approaching the slot.

I've had people reach over me so that they can put their books in ahead of me. It's even morefrustrating when some people silently try to push me out of their wayas if I were merely anobstruction in their path that they could simply shift aside.

A woman in a toque poses next to the book return slot of a public library.
Freeman says people sometimes reach over her to put their books in the slot or even push her and her wheelchair out of the way to access the library return slot. (Trevor Pritchard/CBC)

Although these people do not say "that wheelchair is in my way," their actions make me feel asthough I'm not seen as a human, as a person, or as a fellow library patron, but rather as an object and obstacle.

I've also felt this way while travelling by train when an attendant checking my ticket informedme that a baggage handler would arrive so I could embark.She could have said a staff memberwould be coming, but it seemed she saw me as an object and so she referred to me as if I wereone. As if I were luggage. I am not baggage! My husband also raised an eyebrow at that; wedidn't have any large luggage with us and we didn't need a baggage handler to help us.

A woman in a wheelchair takes a selfie at the gym.
Lisa Freeman took this selfie on one of her regular visits to the gym. (Lisa Freeman)
A woman in a wheelchair against a backdrop of snow.
Freeman uses a wheelchair to get around, but does not want to be referred to by her mode of transport. (Brandon Findlay)

'I can move myself'

As I navigate these situations of ableist microaggressions, I sometimes speak up when Ihave the energy, when it feels safe, and when I feel like it might make a difference either to howI feel or to someone else who might learnsomething.

When a staff member in an airport security line tried to move me from behind without warning,I loudly said, "I can move myself! You just have to ask."His colleague doing the screening apologized, and I left to catch my flight.

It can be hard to balance speaking up for myself and being an advocate with the reality of myday to day, such as the need to get to my destination on time or complete my task. It is tiring toalways have to educate people about respecting another's personal space, and remind them thatpeople different from them are people, too.

For me, if I am able, it is worth it to put in this effort. It matters to me that people do not call mea wheelchair, because I think it leads to people treating me as if I am one, as if I am a thing andnot a person.

A family pic.
For Freeman (bottom row, middle), it's important to be seen doing ordinary things as a wheelchair user, such as going to the pumpkin patch with her extended family. (Submitted by Lisa Freeman)

I'm not representative of every person who uses a wheelchair (nor every wheelchair user, assome people may prefer to be called) let alone all people who have other mobility devices oraids.

I am an individual, and speak only for myself when I ask you not to think about or refer to methis way.

The vast majority of people seem to want to be kind, and want to "help,"but it does not help meto be seen as "other"or "less-than," orto be dehumanized and dismissed.

I am cast in many roles an aunt, a client, a customer, a daughter, a passenger, a physician, awife but I am first and foremost a person just like you are.

I am not a wheelchair.


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