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On a bad date? Try the 'guardian shot' as your exit strategy

Three Charlottetown bars now offer so-called "guardian shots" to help people get away from dates they feel threatened or uncomfortable with. When ordered, the bartender calls a cab or the police.

When ordered, the bartender will help a person get a cab or call the police

The guardian shot is not a real shot, but a sign for the bartender to help a person out. (Stephanie Kelly/CBC)

Some bars on the Island have a new drinkfor people who need to get out of an uncomfortable date.

But ordering the "guardian shot" won't get you an ounce of liquor it's a signal for thebartender that you need help.

Ordered neat, the bartender will take you to your car. Ordered with ice, they'll call a cab. And ordered with lime, they'll call the police.

Steve Barber, who runs the Hunter's Alehouse in Charlottetown, said patrons of the pub had posted on its Facebook page about a similar "code" being used in other North American restaurants, where it's called an "angel shot."

So the bardecided to copy it.

"If we were to save one person from a situation where they weren't comfortablethen it's done its job," he said.

"We would hate not to have done our due diligence."

Shot now offered in three bars

Posters explaining the "guardian shot" are now hangingin the bathrooms of three bars in Charlottetown.

Steve Barber, the owner of Hunters Alehouse, said people had posted on the pubs Facebook page about a similar code being used in other North American restaurants. (Stephanie Kelly/ CBC)

They are Hunter's Ale House, The Factory Cookhouse and Dance Hall, and The Charlottetown Beer Garden. All three are run by the same company.

So far, no one has used the service, and Barber said he's never had any incidents.

"But it probably has happened," he said.

Essential given the rise of online dating

Jillian Kilfoil, executive director with the Women's Network P.E.I., said she welcomes the initiative of the guardian shot, considering how prevalent dating violenceis in society, and how much dating now happens online.

While the majority of victims of dating violence are women, it can also affect men, said Jillian Kilfoil, executive director with the P.E.I. Womens Network. (Stephanie Kelly/CBC)

"Because that person that you are meeting for the first time, you really have only talked to them and interacted with them in an online space," she said.

"And so having these provisions in place for people I think are more important today, given our online spaces and online dating.

"But unfortunately this violence towards women, often within the context of a romantic relationship, has been something that's persisted for decades."

Kilfoil added that while women make up the majority of victims of dating violence, it is an issue that also affects men, and everyone should do more to help people affected by violence.

She saidshe's thrilled to see this initiative taking off.

"I think it's an important step in preventing violence towards women and towards all Islanders," she said.

Not a joke

While the posters say that people can ask for the shot if they feel unsafe or even "just a bit weird" during a first date, Barber said no one should ever think twice about asking for help.

Ordered neat, the bartender will take you to your car. Ordered with ice, theyll call a cab. And ordered with lime, theyll call the police. (Stephanie Kelly/CBC)

"I mean, you can call, you know 'white flag it up' whenever you want," he said. "It's no sweat off our back to walk you to your car or call a cab for you, or call the police.It's just a phone call."

He recommends, however, that people walk up to the bar and ask discreetly, rather than order the shot at the table, as this couldstrike up an unwanted conversation with their date.

But the servers also know about the shot, he said.

The only thing he doesn't like is people making fun of it, as one man did last weekend.

"If this person isn't in the mindset that they can be mature about something like that, then maybe they shouldn't even be allowed in the bar," he said.

With files by Stephanie Kelly