Just married: Are P.E.I. brides changing their last names?
'To us, sharing the same last name portrays that together we are one entity'
Wedding season is getting underway on P.E.I. Whether under a tent, on the shore or in a church, most ceremonies end with an introduction of the couple, along the lines of: "Please welcome Mr. and Mrs. Smith!"
There's no way to know for sure whether most brides aretakingtheir spouse's last name, but anecdotally it looks to be the case.
Last year there were 815 weddings on P.E.I., and provincial officials say they haveno way totrackhow many brides or grooms will change their names.
Truthfully, I have been waiting to share the same last name as him since we first met! Monique Perry, Tignish
It's up to thecouple whether to change theirname, hyphenate, or mash it up in some way with their spouse's.Most don't bother to go through a formal name change under P.E.I.Vital Statistics, which costs $185instead, assuming their spouse's last name and changing it on their mortgage, driver's license and passports.
"Most of the girls are changing their name, some will hyphenate," said KellyMooreheadof the brides she's seen recently at her Charlottetown shop, Perfect Pear bridal wear.
'Still traditional'
"When we tie them up in dresses, we chat," she added.
"Most of them are just traditional. Usually people will live together, build a house and have kids, but they are still traditional they still want that wedding and the name change."
Most brides she sees are between 25 and 30 years old.
Older brides are more likely to keep their name, or if it's the second time around it's too much of a hassle to change it back,Mooreheadsaid with a laugh.
'Our own little family'
Taylor O'Connor, 23, of Warren Grove, is getting married in September and plans to become Mrs. Wainwright.
It's a family tradition to take a husband's name, she said, wrinkling her nose and shaking her head when asked if she considers herself a feminist.
"We're going to be our own little family come September," O'Connor said with satisfaction.
"When we have kids, we'll all have the same name."
@SaraFrasercbc @CBCPEI today, brides are much older than my day. Have careers and are comfortable with own identity.
—@pei_barb'One entity'
That sentiment is echoed by Monique Perry of Tignish, who wed her boyfriend of 10 years, Tyler Perry, in Mexico this past winter.
"Truthfully, I have been waiting to share the same last name as him since we first met!" said Perry.
"To us, sharing the same last name portrays that together we are one entity, two people coming together as one to begin a new journey in our lives."
Waiting to switch
According to theonline serviceI'm a Mrs., the numberof Canadianbrides who take their husbands' name is holding steady at82per cent.
"A couple of things have been changing though," founder Jo-Anne Stayner said via email.
"We're seeing an increase in people waiting to change their name it's shifting closer to the two-year mark post-wedding."
More brides are keeping their originalsurnameprofessionally and assuming their partner's last name for their personal life, Stayner added.
"The other trend is dropping their middle name, moving their maiden name to heir middle name and taking their husband's last name," said Stayner a trend that is bigger in the U.S. than in Canada but quickly gaining traction.
'Raises eyebrows'
DianaLariviereand William Caw, a married couple who perform marriage ceremonies on P.E.I., don't have any data for P.E.I.
"When we meet with a couple to prepare the content of the marriage ceremony, we always ask, 'How would you like to be introduced at the end of the ceremony?' Which, of course, raises the question of name change," saidLariviere.
"There is a wide variation of how people react," she said, adding when she asks if they would like to be introduced using the bride's surname, it "really raises eyebrows!"
@SaraFrasercbc As someone who has fought 25 yr to maintain my own name am curious about this. Some change it b4 the wedding day is out-why?
—@lori_colborneLarivierewas born and raised in Quebec, where women are not legally allowed to take their husbands' last names.
Once the subject did come up, she said, and her husband "looked so spaniel-eyed, I relented and hyphenated Lariviere-Caw."
She later dropped his name for business purposes, as she travelled often for worked and found herself booked in to hotelsas DianaLariviere Canadian Auto Workers!
'I thought it was time'
CBC asked readers to weigh in via social media.
IlonaBerzinsBatchelorreplied onFacebook: "When I got married in 1986 I retained my maiden name. Changed it to his last name seven years later. It will be 30 years of marriage for us May 31."
When I asked her why she did it,Batchelorreplied, "After seven years of marriage, a move to P.E.I. from Toronto, Ont., and then a move to a rural area of P.E.I. I thought it was time."
Her husband was so happy, she said, he bought her another ring to celebrate: seven diamonds in the ring signify the seven years before she took his name.
What about feminism?
"I personally don't get why people change their names when they get married, but I wouldn't judge that decision as being bad feminism," quippedAnnBraithwaite, professor of diversity and social justice studies atUPEI.
"The changing of the name on the part of women alone obviously carries some deeper social meaning for them, for their partners, and often for their families and friends also and on a larger social level, that's something to take a look at.
"I suspect it has to do with the ways in which love and commitment and ideas about the seriousness of marriage are overlaid onto men and women differently."
'I am traditional'
When asked about her own name, KellyMoorehead said that when shewed16 years ago, her father instructedher, "Once you get married, you're taking his name!"
And although she teased him that she might keep her name, she didn't.
"I am traditional the way my parents were."
Moorehead believes Catholic womenare more likely to take their husband'sname, as are brides who marry in a church.
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