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Pandemic piles more onto existing 'double layer of exhaustion' for caregivers of kids with complex needs

Jacqui Cameron was used to the toll of her son's daily care. Now with COVID-19, the Regina caregiver has more concerns.

'You're kind of a slave to your own home,' says one mother

Jacqui Cameron and her 18-year-old son Rylan. (Submitted by Jacqui Cameron)

Jacqui Cameron was used to the toll of her son's daily care. Seizures, feeding tubes, his incontinence and no sleep were all norms in her life.

Now, with the pandemic, the Regina caregiver has even more to worry about.

"We live with a double layer of exhaustion and now COVIDis on top of that," she said.

Cameron's 18-year-old son Rylan is home from school due to worries about his health and his cognitive inability to maintain social distance.

"I have lots of sad days and days where I don't even know what to do,but you're so used to doing it anyway so you just suck it up and move on."

Rylan has a severe seizure disorder called Lennox-Gastaut syndrome. He is non-verbal, has a feeding tubeand needs complete personal hygiene care. Cameron said he has always been a happy kid, but each day is still a struggle.

'We don't have past trauma, we have ongoing trauma," said Cameron, whois Rylan'sprimary caregiver.

A respite nurse comes once a week for three hours. Cameron saidshe used to have more workers come in to help, but the risks fromCOVID are too great.

Jacqui Cameron is the primary caregiver for her son Rylan, who has a severe seizure disorder called Lennox-Gastaut syndrome. (Submitted by Jacqui Cameron)

She saidher experiences of caring for a medically complex person offered some preparationforfacinga pandemic.

The Regina mom practises self-care when she can. Sometimes that means hopping on a rowing machine at four in the morning or making time to read for a few minutes. She also has help from her fianc.

Ernie, the family's basset hound/black lab cross, helps too.

"He will take toys to Rylan to play. If you are crying he launches himself onto you and throws his head across your chest. He is very concerned when Rylan has a seizure and will lick his hands or face," Cameron said.

"He makes us all laugh everyday."

Rylan Moir and his dog Ernie. (Submitted by Jacqui Cameron)

Oddly enough, some thingshave become easier under COVID. Many doctor's appointments happen overthe phoneand lab work is done in the home. Topics that used to be tabooare out in the open.

'It became more acceptable for people to have problems and talk about them."

Profound isolation magnified

Cameron and her family are far from alone.

Heidi Prpick Schneider is a caregiver for her daughter in Davidson. Six-year-old Marlee has a genetic neurological condition called Rett syndrome. She requires a lot ofhelp from day to day.

When COVID hit, it magnified an already profound level of isolation.

"You're kind of a slave to your own home," saidPrpick Schneider.

Prpick Schneider used to be able totake Marlee for a stroll through the mall, but COVID has takenthataway.

She and her husbandare keeping Marlee home from school, as even a common cold creates an avalanche of problems for her.

"There are so many elements that come into play when a Rett girl gets sick. Something as simple as a cold and flu is so stressful," Prpick Schneider said.

She said the family hasn't had a good night's sleep in years. Marlee has seizures every night.At one pointthe only way to get her to sleep for two years straight was to drive for hours in the middle of the night.

Prpick Schneider and her husband have never had a day off. Finding someone to trust with respite was complicated before. Now with COVID, it is nearly impossible.

She said she was getting used to playing the roles of doctor, nurse, physiotherapist, speech and occupational therapist. Now that Marlee is home from school, Prpick Schneider has to somehow find time and energy for another role.

The lists of daily tasks in Marlee's care is long, including everything from toileting and hygiene, to getting her in leg bracesto practise walking. Plusthere is her school work. She must also constantly be watched for seizures.

"If you want to clean the kitchen or fold the laundry there is not a lot of time to do it. There's not even enough time to use the washroom."

Schneider saidher back, shoulderand arms have taken a hit providing this care. She said it's impossible tofind time to practise self-care.

She and her husband hunkered down for years before COVIDhit to provide Marlee's care. Now, they continue under the pall of a pandemic.

"We just stay a team."

Caregivers have no time to seek help: CMHA Sask.

The Saskatchewan division of the Canadian Mental Health Association(CMHA Sask.) says interest in itsprogram to help caregivers is high, but during a pandemic when caregivers need help the most, theresimply isn't the time.

The mental health group said it has been hearing from caregivers at home, nurses, people in Extendicare, people in rural areas, educatorsand for the first time parents at home with their children when school is cancelled.

"People are tired. People are working hard. It's taken a toll,' said Kathy White, co-ordinator of the Caregiver Affected Recovery Education (C.A.R.E.) program.

Getting help to those people is proving a challenge. CMHA Sask. had to rethink theC.A.R.E. program. First, it couldn't be donein person.Caregivers also had no time for a two-day course.

White said the workloads in health care are particularly heavy with the COVIDcrisis. Many caregivers have clients who are sick themselves, so they have to be extra cautious with their contacts.

C.A.R.E. organizers came up with a one-hour virtual seminar to try to fill the need. Even then, it was tough to come up with ideas to help caregivers take a break.

"They used to take time for walks, go shoppingor whatever to relax, but now with COVIDthose options are not there," she said.

"They are afraid of bringing the virus back to their house."

White saidshe makes suggestions for things caregivers can do in a crunch. They can be as simple as a few minutes of yoga, breathing exercises, crafting ordoing a puzzle.

According to CMHA Sask., caregivers are at risk of compassion fatigue, vicarious traumaand burnout. Addictions are also a concern. White said it may be alcohol and drugs, but it could also be less obvious things like binge-shopping onlineor unhealthy eating.

White said some also have to care for someone who is violent. PTSD is a reality for many.

She said reaching out to a caregiver in your life in meaningful ways can be a help, even if you can't meet face-to-face.

"If you have nobody to talk to or share that load with, you just feel pure exhaustion."