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'Anything But Sorry': What to say when a baby is born with Down syndrome

The Canadian Down Syndrome Society has launched a new campaign, entitled "Anything But Sorry: The 'S' Word" to change the perceptions of Canadians about the birth of a baby with Down syndrome.

Canadian Down Syndrome Society launches campaign to change perceptions

Ed Casagrande says of his daughter Emma, 4: 'She brings joy to her family every day. She lights up a room wherever she goes. She is a blessing. There's nothing to be sorry for.' (CBC)

For Ed and Mary Casagrande, the birth of their middle child, Emma, was a moment of celebration. The Casagrandes were told when Mary was five months pregnant that their babyhad Down syndrome.

Now, four years later, Emma continues to be a bright light in their family.

"She brings joy to ourfamily every day. She lights up a room anywhereshe goes. She is a blessing. She completes our family," said Ed Casagrande, a Toronto resident and member of the board of directors of the Canadian Down Syndrome Society.

"There's nothing to besorry for."

On Friday, the society launched a new campaign, entitled "Anything But Sorry: The 'S' Word," that includes a YouTube video, a website with information on how to welcome a baby born with Down syndrome into the world, Facebookbirth announcements that can be filled out by parents, even if their babies are now children,and congratulatory greeting cards that can be ordered.

Warning: Graphic language

Casagrande acknowledgesthat the video includes swear words but saysit is trying to make the point thatthe birth of a baby with Down syndrome is a happy occasion, not a sorrowful one, and it's time Canadians changed their perception of such events.

"We chose some colourful language on purpose," he said. "You can say anything you want to parentswho have had a childwith Down syndrome, but the wordyou reallyshouldn't say is,'Sorry.'"

Kirk Crowther, the society's national executive director, based in Calgary, told CBC Toronto thatthe video is part of Canadian Down Syndrome Society week. Two other videos will be rolled out this week that feature parents of babies with Down syndrome.

"We are hearing from parents in the officeand they are telling us that there has beennocongratulations, from the doctor whodelivered the baby, to the nurses, to family members," he said.

"We are really trying to educatethe public to say that sorry is something you don't say.It's a new child. It's a birthto be celebrated.It's not the loss of a child at all.We are trying to change the perceptions of Canadians."
Emma Casagrande, 4, is a middle child, with an older brother and a younger brother. Her father says: 'She completes our family.' (CBC)

Crowthersaid the idea is to get parents of babies with Down syndrome the support they need, especially from members of their communities.

"Congratulations should absolutely be the first thing that anybody hears."

'You just had a baby!'

Crowther said the outlook for people with Down syndrome has changed greatly in the last 30 years.

"People with Down syndrome have such a positive future now. There are options to getpost-secondary education, there are options to get married, there are options for employment. All of those things have really changed. This is just a step in that evolution."

In the YouTube video, there is a warning about inappropriate language and then the first frame asks: "What do you say to parents who just had a child with Down syndrome?"

A series of actors, all with Down syndrome, answer the question. "You can say almost anything," says one. "Like, holy sh-t," says another. "You just had a baby!" says a third. "Sh-t, yeah," says a fourth.

"Congratu-f--kinglations!" says the first actor. A few other suggestions are made.

'The only bad word is sorry'

"The truth is, the only bad word is sorry," says one of the actors. Then all of the actors say, "Sorry"in low voices.

"You're supposed to be celebrating," says one. "Woohoo," says another. "So, don't be sorry about a baby," says one more. "Be happy," suggests another.

"Because every baby deserves a warm f--kingwelcome," says yet another.

Crowther saysthe society is taking "a little bit of a risk"by using language that could be called vulgar, but he saysan edge is needed to the campaign to make a point. And so far, it's beingwell received.

Last year, the society won about 15 awards for its video, "Down Syndrome Answers." It was considered Canada's most awarded not-for-profit video in 2016. "We are hoping this does the same," he said.

With files from Ali Chiasson