'The beginning of the end': families of 2 women killed in 1983 speak at sentencing

The August 1983 murder of Susan Tice tore apart the Tice family and taught her daughter the lesson that "men used sex as a weapon."

Christian Tice, who was 16 years old when her mother was killed in Toronto, spoke at a sentencing hearing Monday, sayingshe has been left with lasting trust and relationship issues following the "gut-wrenching, soul-shattering" loss.

"This type of crime teaches you about a boogeyman, a monster, unknown, unseen, hiding, someone to blame," she said. "On a profound level, that changes you."

Last October, Joseph George Sutherland pleaded guilty to the sexual assault and murder of Susan Tice, 45, and Erin Gilmour, 22, who was killed in December 1983. The two women lived in Toronto and did not know each other.

At the time of his November 2022 arrest, Sutherland was living in Moosonee, Ont. He was 61 at the time.

During Monday's hearing, several family members and friends of both women shared victim impact statements.

During her victim impact statement, Tice recalled spending sleepless nights "worrying if this evil will find me the same way it found my mom."

She said she keeps a baseball bat in her bedroom and considers her squeaking front door "an early alarm system" in case of an intruder.

Following her mother's murder, Tice said her family shut down with grief signalling "the beginning of the end of our close knit family." She said Monday that her family is still estranged today.

Tice described her mother as "the centre of my world," recalling her kindness, her laughter and her unique cooking inventions, including "spaghetti hamburger pie."

"She loved us all as fiercely as we loved her," Tice said.

Sutherland apologizes for not confessing sooner

After all the victim impact statements were read, Sutherland apologized for not confessing to the murders earlier in a tearful address to the court.

"The things I have done broke me," he said. "I broke my heart, my mindand my spirit."

Sutherland said he has sought forgiveness from Tice and Gilmourby pursuing a spirit quest, in accordance with his Indigenous faith.

Sutherland said he felt a "rush of relief" after confessing to the murders. He said he hoped Tice and Gilmour's loved ones could forgive him, and hewishedthem closure and healing.

"I am learning the path of a good human being," he said. "I have not fallen from that path since then."

'Why take from this world?'

Tice'stwo adult sons, Ben and Jason, also spoke at the sentencing hearing.

Ben Tice said he wasunable to read his statement out loud until he visited his mother's grave the day before.

"This exercise has been one of the most difficult and painful tasks of my life," he said.

Tice said he learned through counselling that he has post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) following his mother's death.

At one point, he addressed Sutherland directly.

"Why take from this world? What right did you have?" he asked.

Jason Tice said his mother's death taught him that he is always alone. To this day, he said he is not particularly close to anyone.

"I don't regret who I've become, but it's not at all the person I expected," he said.

As a child, he said he used to fantasize about vengeance for his mother's death.

"Now, in the twilight of my grief, there's no solace to be found in thoughts of retribution," he said. "Only grim acceptance."

'You also killed a part of our mother'

Erin Gilmour's siblings emphasized the impact of her murder on their mother, Anna, who died in 2020 before Sutherland was arrested.

"Make no mistake, when you murdered Erin, you also killed a part of our mother," said Sean McCowan, Erin Gilmour's brother.

McCowan said his mother "would have been the most relieved of all of us" to know Sutherland had been apprehended. She had worked hard to find the strength to carry on after her only daughter's murder, he said.

"She was, as many of her friends told me, never the same," he said.

Gilmour's brother, Kaelin McCowan, saidMcCowan said that Sutherland was able to live his life freelyfor the past 40 years,including marrying and having a child.

"I had a sister and she didn't get to do any of those things," he said, adding shewould have been the next matriarch in her family.

McCowan described the past several decades waiting to find his sister's killeras a marathon.

"With each new development in the case came hope, followed by eventual disappointment, and always a rehashing of her murder," he said.

Judith Tatar, Gilmour's close friend, said she maintained the "pilot light" of her friend's life through stories and memories, particularly for Gilmour's mother.

She recalled how Gilmour threw her a surprise pink-themed birthday party weeks before her murder, calling it "a final act of kindness that now haunts me in retrospect."

Now, Tatar saidshe feels a constant ache around each birthday.

"A precious soul, once vibrant and promising, now only echoes through memory," she said.

The Crown is recommending Sutherland be sentenced to between 20 to 22 years in prison. Mitigating factors in Sutherland's sentencing include his guilty plea and that he is an Indigenous offender, according to the Crown.

The judge said she plans to give her sentencing decisionthe week of March 18.