Disturbing bullying reports can be used to teach kids about bystander intervention, advocates say

Advocates say shocking new videos showing extreme bullying offer parents and educators an opportunity to teach young witnesses the importance of bystander intervention.

"Targeting behavioural change from the bully is not as effective as targeting the bystander to make a culture shift," said Gordana Skrba of the Ontario Federation for Cerebral Palsy.

A video posted Nov. 8 showeda 14-year-old Nova Scotia boy with cerebral palsy lying down in a stream as a girl steps on his back. About 20 students were watching, some filming on their phones.

Then came last week's news abouttwo videotaped incidents at St. Michael's College School in Toronto. Police sources say members of the basketball team bullied one student and soaked him with water, while a group of boys held down another student and allegedly sexually assaulted him with a broom handle.

Toronto police said Monday six teenage boys had been charged with assault and sexual assault.

As these incidents are investigated, students, parents and teachers are grappling with difficult questions of how they could happen and what young witnesses should do if they are present when they do.

Debra Pepler, a York University psychology professor and bullying expert, said bullies often thrive off the power imbalance of an audience but bystanders can also be instrumental in stopping the incidents.

Pepler co-authored a 2001 study on peer intervention that found more than half of bullying incidents stop within 10 seconds after a bystander steps in.

There are bystanders to about 85 per cent of bullying incidents, Pepler said, but three-quarters of the time they are "paying positive attention" to the bully and victims can sense the power imbalance.

Children who are noticeably different are targeted more frequently whether for a disability, sexual or gender identity, race, nationality or socioeconomic status, she said.

"Where you find power differentials, that's where you find people who are more at risk of being bullied," Pepler said.

"It's really up to the adults to create a safe school context where everyone feels included as if they belong and are valued."

Talking about intervention is a challenging task, especially because there is no clear research on what methods are most effective. Pepler's work has shown "pro-social" intervention is about as effective as "aggressive" intervention toward the bully.

Many children and youth don't know how to intervene, even if they sense that what's happening is wrong, she said.

Having discussions around the dinner table, watching films that address the issues, or talking about possible scenarios can help young people think about what to do about bullying, she said.

It's also important to make sure kids understand they have safe options other than getting directly involved, like talking to a friend or adult, she said.

Pepler said if a young person speaks up alone, it's usually someone with a higher social status, as a common fear is that whoever challenges the bully could become the next victim.

"We as adults play a very significant role in helping children understand not only how to avoid using their power negatively, but how it feels like to use it positively," Pepler said.

When a school implements a bullying prevention plan, Pepler said, the intervention rate goes up for both teachers and peers.

Advocacy group People First Nova Scotia visits junior high school classes to talk about the importance of respecting people with disabilities and how to speak up when witnessing abuse and discrimination.

Cindy Carruthers of People First said students and teachers often thank the group for giving them the words to stand up to a bully, either in the school yard or at home.

"We often say to the kids, if you hear older brothers and sisters or your parents using language they shouldn't use, educate them," Carruthers said.

She said parents should also be educated about these issues, and she often senses her group's anti-bullying themes haven't been discussed with kids at home before.

"Kids don't just make this stuff up. You have to learn to be a bully," said Carruthers.