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Social media: 10 ways to avoid sparking family feuds

With everyone from grandparents to tweens using social media, family gatherings don't happen only around the table. They also take place online. Here are 10 tips for keeping family life civilized.

Tips for keeping things cool online and around the dinner table

Facebook, Apple and Google were among the tech companies that met with U.S. Justice officials Wednesday on countering online terrorism.
It's important to have an open and honest conversation with family members about social media tools. Not everyone uses these apps in the same way. (Dado Ruvic/Reuters)

With everyone from grandparents to tweens using social media, family gatherings don't only happen around the table. They also take place online.

This week, the advocacy group Media Smarts released a report about digital literacy in Canadian classrooms. But it's not only kids who need lessons on digital etiquette, adults could benefit too.

The fastest growing demographics on Facebook are parents and grandparents. Adult Facebook users are also engaging with Facebook more and moreand visiting the site multiple times each day.

So that means that younger people are migrating out of Facebook in search of online spaces to escape their older relatives.

Still, if you want to be friends with your relatives on your favourite social media site, here are sometips.

1. Everyone needs a little space

Part of growing up is trying on different identities, stylesand interests.

Previous generations were able to make mistakes without everymisstepbeing documented and shared, but that'schallenging today under the magnifying lens of social media.

There is a balance between managing safety concerns and privacy online; it is possible to teach young people to be cautious social media users without policing their every keystroke.

2. Open upoffline, too

Have an honest conversation with family members about social media tools.

For example, some people useSnapchatto share fun posts and silly jokes with friends, while others use the app to get reports posted by mainstream news agencies.

Explain to your family how you usea platform, whetherit's for work or personal reasons, what kinds of people are included in your network, and what kinds of information you are comfortable sharing. That wayyou can save a lot of heartache and embarrassment.

Most social media tools can be used by most groups of people. However, be conscious of who you are adding to your group in these spaces. (Patrick Fallon/Bloomberg)
3.Am I too old for this app?

If you wouldn't take grandma to the nightclub, it wouldn't make sense to invite her to browse your Tinder profile. (Butwait a second: She may have some valuable insights if you keep picking the wrong types.)

Most social media tools can be adapted for use bypeople of many ages and interests. Just be conscious of who you are adding to your group of friends in these spaces. A person of any age can go to a party, but you may not want to attend the same party as your 15-year-old niece or grandma.

4. Ask first,post later

If you are invited to be part of a family member's social media circle, respecttheir privacy concerns.

If you are in doubt about what to post, ask them.

Trends like ThrowbackThursdayare fun ways to share old photos but they can also trigger bad memories.You may think your friend's awkward promphoto is a hoot but for them it may be a painful reminder of a time they would rather not relive.

5. Not everyone wins the Life Lottery

Facebook and Instagramoften seemto be entirely made up of wedding photos, sonograms, baby photos, new job posts and engagement announcements.No one posts photos of themselves home alone on Saturday night in sweatpants eating icecream from the container as they binge-watch Netflix.

Facebook actually makes us depressed, because of the social expectations it can impose. Having family online compounds this pressure. Mom wants you to have a babybecause allher friends are sharing photos with their new grandchildren.

Whenyour life is not going the way you think your family wants it to, you start omitting details.Cut yourself some slack;everyone's life looks better through an Instagram filter.

6. Not all posts go on the wall

New social media users need to distinguish betweenwhat to post publicly and what to share privately.

Generally,if you have something personal to say, try doing it as a private message rather than posting it on someone's Facebook wall or Twitter timeline.

Social media isn't the dinner table where just your family hears your conversations. So you may want to think twice before asking your 20-year-old son publicly onlineif he remembered to do his laundry or pack his favourite stuffed animal.

The biggest mistake people make online is not remembering how public social networks can be. (Lucy Nicholson/Reuters)
7.Can't tag this

Sometimesthe world will read something sent to you by a friend thatyou'd rather keep private.

Protect yourself by configuringyour privacy settings so that only photos and posts that you approve are shared on your personal wall.

These privacy policies and configurations change often, so make sure that you check the setting every few months.

8. Unfriending fauxpas

Before adding your best friend's new boyfriend to your friend list, consider a possible breakup.

With social media,a divorce or a breakup doesn't justmean the absence of your uncle at Easter dinner. Itmay also mean your aunt asking you to unfriend him on Facebook.

A study shows12 per cent of Facebook users surveyed were asked by someone to unfrienda person from their network.This can be really tricky.

If someone is vulnerable emotionally, being unfriended can really add to their anxiety and sense of isolation. Be sensitive to this.

At the same time, it's hard for people who are no longer part of your family to continue seeing posts featuring their exes, particularly if the ex has a new romantic partner.

9. Curate, curate, curate

Curate your feed so that you share posts onlywithgroups of interested people.

That means chronicling your baby's toilet training habits for just the people in your network who may want to hear aboutpull-ups and baby wipes.

It's easy to create sub-groups in places like Facebook. Then,with a click of the privacy settings, you can decide which people will see your status, photos, videos or links.

10. Seriously, another Candy Crush invitation?

We all have family members withannoying online habits, from sharing religious quotes and memes to inundatingyou withpolitical propaganda.

Bombarding your friends' walls with the latest Buzzfeed quiz or sending repeated invitations to online games like Candy Crush can also get tiresome.

An invitation may get you extra lives in the game. but it might lose you a loved one.