7 Ways to Incorporate More Rest into Your Daily Life

When I was young, the standard response to the question “How are you?” was “Fine.” Now it’s “busy” or “crazy busy.”

There are many reasons why, as a culture, we seem to equate “busy” with important, productive and valuable. Sometimes there is an economic need at play. Trying to balance work and family life can pull us in a million directions. Technology makes us reachable 24/7, blurring the lines between work and off-work. We are also hyper aware of others’ lives and accomplishments thanks to media (and social media in particular) — it’s a cultural value to emphasize material and professional success. And because we live in a meritocracy, we have the feeling that if we just work hard enough we can reach our goals, financial or otherwise.

But, when we don’t rest, we are at risk for depression and anxiety, every day stress and, as we age, cognitive problems. The “right” level of busy is going to vary from person to person, but if you’re noticing that your energy levels are low, or your emotional or physical health aren’t where you’d like them to be, you may need to recalibrate.

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But how can we feel more rested without changing our lives completely?

1. Exercise

Paradoxically, exercising makes us feel more energized and rested. One of the best things you can do for your brain, body and overall well-being is to exercise regularly. Even taking a 15 minute walk helps us to feel more energetic, alert and rested throughout the day.

2. Sleep 30 minutes more per night

Forgoing sleep for a busy lifestyle is a big mistake. Most of us are walking around sleep-deprived on any given day. Lack of sleep impairs cognition and negatively impacts mood. Sleeping even 30 minutes more a night would be useful for many people.

3. Stop trying to multitask

Studies show that when people think they are multitasking, they are actually doing a lot of quick task switching, which impairs concentration and the ability to consolidate information and learn.   Doing one thing at a time helps us to feel less frazzled and more rested.

4. Wakeful rest through meditation and mindfulness practices

In addition to sleep, we need to experience wakeful rest to be able to allow our brains to process all our myriad of daily experiences. Even short amounts of daily meditation and mindfulness practices help us to relax, make sense of our experiences and prepare for the next burst of activity.

5. Prioritize relationships

Relationships provide meaning, social support and give us energy and motivation to be our best in our daily lives. Even short conversations and face time with friends and family can be beneficial to our sense of well-being and energy levels.

6. Learn to say "no"

Learning to edit our lives and say “no” can be a challenge but pays off when we have fewer, focused tasks and responsibilities. The power of “no” can increase a sense of control and mastery in our daily lives. 

7.  Think of busyness as expensive

Like the frog in slowly boiling water, it’s often hard to know when to stop increasing levels of busyness! Here’s one approach: Think of your time in terms of money, and think of busyness of being particularly expensive — it often comes at a high cost to our mental and physical health and our relationships. Just as you wouldn’t recklessly spend all your money on expensive items, all your time should not be spent in a high-cost mental state without incorporating adequate exercise, sleep and rest.