Lee Doud , an actor-producer who is of mixed race, is used to hearing casual ethnic slurs about his Chinese heritage, even on dates. Of all the frustrating experiences hes had, one bad first date still stands out.

For most of the night, Douds date seemed into him, complimenting the actor on his smile as the two exchanged banter. Then, something changed.

He asked me if I was Latino. I told him I wasnt and that I was actually half Caucasian and half Chinese, Doud told HuffPost. He suddenly became very distant and when I continued to flirt, he claimed that he was no longer feeling it.

Point-blank, Doud asked if it had something to do with him being Asian-American.

The guy vehemently and awkwardly denied it, saying he wasnt sure about his level of interest from the get-go, backtracking on his earlier compliments.

While Doud recognizes that everyone has a type, it was glaringly obvious in his perception of my race that I was sexy and exotic as a Latino, but I suddenly became undesirable as an Asian-American.