Crazy Hot Scale (Rebuttal) When He Says Youre Acting Crazy.

Had I known that my dating advice article would have been more popular than any of my travel posts , Id have verbally vomited on you all a long time ago.

There is one issue that I did not address in my 10 Commandments of Dating article and I think its important. That is the issue of crazy. Either you think youre acting crazy, he thinks you are or youre being made to feel crazy. A YouTube video came out a few years ago, spawning from the show How I Met Your Mother, called The Crazy Hot Scale. Let me just previous this with the fact that I absolutely HATE the word crazy, but I say it a lot in this article because its the language used in the video.

The video is a deep dive analysis describing just how crazy women are allowed to be based on how hot they are. That is the gist

Before you stop reading or assume this is some kind of feminist rant, its not. I have seen the video several times and I find it hilarious. However, Ill elaborate on my reasons why later.

Now, you may be thinking to yourself why the hell is this girl watching The Crazy Hot Scale so many times?.

There are three reasons for my frequent viewing

1.) Im hot (so are you!)

2.) I am a natural redhead

3.) My name is Tiffany

In the crazy hot scale, there is something they refer to as the Danger Zone. Here is where they list off those girls who are potentially within this zone You got your redheads, anyone named Tiffany, the video rattles off. Thus, placing me squarely in the Danger Zone according to the Crazy Hot Scale.

(Located around 1:54 into the video)

I have lost count of how many times this has been brought up to me on dates. How many times someone has excitedly pulled out their phone on a date to have me watch this video thinking I am unaware of my placement in the Danger Zone. *sigh*

I find this actually rather assuming, so I typically play along. I take it all in stride, I laugh, I quote the video and I dont call these guys back.

There is nothing wrong with The Crazy Hot Scale philosophy per say,

but they are missing one important element:

MEN.

Lets Address My Top 3 Rebuttals To The Crazy Hot Scale

1.) The Unicorn:

In the video, there is a reference to a unicorn, this is supposedly the perfect woman that is both hot and what I call the cool girl. Let me tell you something about the unicorn. They are created, not found. That means, every woman has the potential of being a unicorn, its how you treat her that determines whether or not you create a crazy girl or a unicorn.

Yup, CREATE. Unicorns are said to be a symbol of purity and grace. In the legends surrounding unicorns, its believed they can only be captured by virgins (ahem) virgins. Think about that. Unicorns have also been described as wild creatures and thats what makes them so alluring.

One doesnt simply capture a wild creature. You tame them by creating trust, spending time and building a genuine bond. You want to find your unicorn? Treat a woman like one. Period. (god, Ive been waiting so long to say that!)

2.) When He Thinks Youre Acting Crazy Lets Analyze The WHY

I dated this guy one time who claimed he never called me a nasty name because he would say youre acting like a bitch and then when he got the look of death from me he would say I said ACTING, I didnt say you WERE one. haha clever. To be fair, he only did that twice (thats all it took) LOL. Ladies, lets admit that we are emotional creatures, we have our moments. Lets also admit that more often than not, those moments are created by men acting like, well, men. The ironic thing about this is, if men realized how simple it actually is to avoid moments like these, life would be easier for all of us. Return a txt (like, not 4 days later *eye roll* no one is THAT busy), dont say shit you dont mean, be clear on your intentions, dont keep women around simply because you wantsomething from them.

Treat women like youd want someone to treat your sister. Do you really think if his sister went to him and said hey I really like this guy, but I never hear from him and I only see him when he wants sex that he would just be like oh, I mean, thats totally fine. No. Not unless he hates his sister. Its all pretty simple. RESPECT HER. If youre not interested, leave her alone, dont lead her on. Healthy men wont need to be told any of this. If hes not doing these things and still claims youre acting crazy, take a step back, check your emotions and reevaluate.

Is there other shit going on that may be affecting your emotions? If this is the case, put the crazy back under the bed and apologize. Own up and move on. Ill fully admit, there have been times my emotions have gotten the better of me, but a real man will not chock this up to crazy hell realize shit happens and buy you ice cream (once youre approachable again haha). Just remember, that means he gets a pass next time he doesnt notice your hair during the play offs LOL. (just kidding, who cares if he doesnt notice, all the other guys at the bar will) Joking aside, men have their moments too. If he treats you gently in your moments, he can expect the same.

3.) Dont Call Me Crazy (or Baby) Setting Her Up To Be Crazy

I am SO sick of the fabricated relationship. Do you know what I am talking about? Its when the guy starts talking future early on, calling you pet names and generally progressing a fabricated emotional connection. I dont know if this is because of technology making it feel like we can connect with people simply through txt and online interactions or if these guys just need that much of an ego boost.

If a guy is calling you baby before the first date or talking about your potential future together, he cant expect you NOT to react poorly (crazy) when he flips the script and plays dumb about all of this past talk (what do you mean, what did I mean?!?!). I have seen this so many times myself and with girlfriends. Boys, please, just stop. Dont send mixed messages simply to get someone out of your league in bed. It doesnt make you a player, it makes you insecure.

I say this because if your ultimate goal is sex and the only way you can achieve this is by creating a false emotional connection with a woman, you dont got game..you got issues and YOU are setting her up to be crazy. Sex is not that hard to achieve, if youre resorting to this method, dont complain when girls go crazy on you about it and expect more from you than you intended to give. Its called misleading, look it up.

It should also be noted this category includes EXs coming back to reminisce about all the good times. Thats just another form of creating fabricated emotional connection.

Bottom Line:

Woman are emotional creatures and that is beautiful.

Men shouldnt be looking for a non-emotional woman, they should be creating a safe healthy emotional spacecreating a unicorn. No one is inherently crazy, at least not in the sense that were using this terrible word. The issue is that were not talking through expectations and needs or were dating boys instead of men.

If someone is making you feel crazy, dont waste your time. There is absolutely nothing worse than feeling like your feelings are not valid or like youve done something wrong for feeling what you feel. There is also absolutely nothing wrong with being emotional, its only wrong if youre not checking in with yourself on where its coming from and making efforts to understand (and explain if needed). Women waste far too many hours wondering, analyzing and worrying. This is what makes us crazy. This is a result of not feeling secure in our interactions with someone. If hes making you feel insecure, its probably because hes stringing you along. Boys like that, just need a lot of attention.

They are not secure enough in themselves, so they have to bring you down to their level. It aint worth it ladies! Life is too short for that. Even if youre simply just dating and not looking for something serious, keeping these kinds of boys around is pointless.

Surround yourself with healthy men who step up and deserve your time. Enjoy it.

Oh, and you know when you watch a really scary movie and you need to follow it by watching something happy? Wash away The Crazy Hot Scale video with this jam. its my anthem, you can borrow it. Look for for man like this:

PS: Now you see why I think this video is hilarious. Because its SO Far off base that it cant be anything else.

PPS: I have never slashed tires or keyed cars hahaha just sayin