"So I ignored it until he threw away the food I made him. I woke up at 6 a.m. just to make him his favorite food. But ever since then, this has been happening every day, and it started to get annoying."
"Until today, I decided not to make him lunch. He came downstairs in the morning to me making breakfast and asked me where his lunch was. I said I didn't make him one because it was going to go to waste anyway. He started arguing that I was being petty over a little thing. I tried to discuss how I felt, and he went over it. So am I the asshole for not making him food?" Yikes. People in the comments had a wide range of responses to the husband's actions. "Let him make his own food," user Artistic_AD753 wrote.
"My wife only makes mine occasionally. If he doesn't like it, tough luck, he needs to realize he's upsetting you."
"I think in plain words you need to tell your husband that you don't want him interacting with her at all unless it's required for business and only as minimum as necessary," user SuccySuccubi wrote.
"Her behavior, from consistently cooking for him to calling him her work husband and giving him tight hugs, are extremely inappropriate. He should not be more worried about hurting a coworker's feelings than disrespecting his marriage. He didn't want to hurt her feelings by not eating her food, but he has no issue with throwing his own wife's food away in front of you. His coworker's behavior is a direct threat to his marriage, and it is his responsibility to set and enforce the boundaries to protect the marriage."
User fubar_68 felt even more strongly, and called for a divorce.
"I would divorce him if I was in your shoes. He's having an emotional affair. He's disrespectful to his wife, and she's rubbing the affair in your face, and he's not doing anything to stop it. I would tell him you are seeing a lawyer. Start doing divorce research, print it out, and let him find it."
"It's essential to understand the dynamics of workplace relationships, and the fact of the matter is, respect and boundaries are key, both of which are currently missing in your situation," user DaisyRebeccaa wrote.
"You have every right to feel uncomfortable with this arrangement. The concept of a work spouse should never eclipse the sanctity of a real marital relationship, and the intimate nature of preparing daily meals is pushing well beyond reasonable work friend behavior."