Weve all been there: Youre tired, youre overwhelmed, then one of your kids makes a move and its the final straw. Words youd sworn youd never use as a parent slip right out of your mouth.

Or maybe you find yourself reevaluating your priorities. Restricting junk food or screen time might not be your No. 1 goal every day.

Its good to be thoughtful about your intentions as a parent, but you dont want your expectations to be so rigid that they cant bend to accommodate the moment youre facing, or the child in front of you.

Parenting is not static, New York psychologist and parenting coach Sarah Bren told HuffPost.

It requires a great deal of learning, adapting, iterating and tolerating messy growth (our kids and our own). It rarely looks in real life the way it all played out in our fantasy, she explained.

Whether others are doing the judging, or were doing it ourselves, its important to remember that no one moment determines our worth as parents.

Cindy Graham , a psychologist in Maryland, told HuffPost, Oftentimes we think the goal of parenting is to raise happy, healthy, well-adjusted kids. We sometimes forget that parenting is also about learning to show grace to ourselves and our children and teaching kids to show grace. You will say things you never thought you would, so learn to apologize effectively and make amends.

If youve ever felt alone in not living up to your own parenting expectations, read on. We asked parents what things they promised themselves they would never do and then did. Wed bet that every parent can relate to at least one of these scenarios.

Feeding

I swore my kids wouldnt ever eat McDonalds. Sometimes I just dont have it in me to cook. Patty Van Laar

That I wouldnt cook separate meals for them, they would eat what we eat. Uhhhh, yeah. So whats it gonna be tonight, kids? Chicken nuggets or mac n cheese? Honestly, its because I have yet to figure out how to cook a meal worthy of adults that can also be on the table by 6 p.m. I work full time 9-5 and the kids deserve to eat at a time that matches their schedule and hunger. Just not enough hours in the day! Beth Carchia

Breastfeed beyond a year. Had no idea that babies dont just wean themselves. My boys nursed till 2-and-a-half! Jean Wolfers-Lawrence

Hot dogs. Sara Biehl Horsman

I swore I would always have candy out, free for the eating. Needless to say, I didnt do that! Gretchen Kuiper

Eat dinner at 8 p.m., because of kid activities and practices. I never thought we would be that family so busy that dinner was at 8, on a school night. Yet its the norm for a lot of the year now and Im just fine with it. Renee Colleen

We were gonna eat dinner together every day at the table! With no electronics! Sigh. Katie Morris

Sleeping

I swore that my children would never sleep in my bed, they would always sleep in their cribs. My son turns 9 in April and only stopped sleeping in my bed regularly last year. Desiree Dalby

Co-sleep. I thought you just let them cry and figure it out till I was working two jobs while my husband worked night shift and I needed to sleep. I started at 2 years old and dont know why I didnt start sooner. He slept and I slept. We did that till he was 6/7 and we transitioned him back to his room. Amanda Krieger Royer

My first was sleeping in her room by the age of 7 months! I thought I had aced this parenting thing. And then my second came and he slept in our bedroom every night (and in our bed at least three times a week) till he was 2-and-a-half years old! Michele Lempek Rosa

Laying with them until they fall asleep. Jordanna Oswald

Screen Time

I would look at people in public and think, Theres no way my kid will ever bring a tablet out in public. Me, ten years later, A tablet is a must if we want to enjoy a dinner in public with our 2 year old. I completely understand and apologize to any parent I side-eyed ten years ago. Amanda Manley

Toys & Clothes

I swore we wouldnt have a playroom full of toys. I was steadfast that the childrens bedrooms were where their toys would go. They can just play in their rooms! Fast forward to when I have three kids and weve turned our dining room into a playroom. Our kids are little so we need them close by for safety reasons. Theres no way they can just play unsupervised in their rooms on the second floor. Betsey Niebauer

I said that Id never dress my kids in clothing that had characters/TV shows on them, i.e., Paw Patrol, Spidey, etc. I said my kid wasnt going to be a walking advertisement. This lasted until I saw how excited and happy it made them to wear a shirt with Chase on it. Catherine C.R.

Discipline

I swore Id never say, because I said so. Well, I have like 10 minutes a day of me time and Im not using it to repeat the same stuff I already told you in another conversation. Im the parent, youre the kid, sometimes youre gonna have to live with that as an answer. Rachel Bowie Mace

I swore Id never have one of those kids, the ones having a tantrum in the grocery store because you wouldnt buy them Twizzlers or a toy. So naive! Jennifer Streng

I never thought Id tell my kid to not speak to me as if I were his friend (something my own mother would say to me) and the words have definitely come out of my mouth! Naomi Raquel

I swore I would never yell at them. Well, let me tell you, I had no idea in my early 20s just how frustrating parenting is, and boy oh boy, have I screamed and yelled. I wish I didnt, but it happens. Danielle Butler Shearin

The Leash

I remember saying how ridiculous the kid leashes/harnesses/backpacks/ bracelets were. Oooh, I was so judgy. Anyway, life gave me a runner at 15 months old, so naturally we were using a backpack harness and I did get the dirty looks, but aw well, hes alive and well. Cindy Montalvo

My first son was chill, but my second son? Not so much. That kid would have run out into traffic without a second thought. The leash was a godsend. I honestly didnt care what people thought. It helped keep him alive. Amy Kristine

I was sitting there judging all of those people that put their kids on a leash, like OMG, get a dog if you want to use a leash. Until my 14-month-old no longer wanted to be in a stroller and she was also a runner. So I needed a leash and some running shoes and off we went! Courtney Entersz Wenhold

Responses have been edited for style and clarity.