Bachelorette parties or destination bachelorette weekends are a chance for the busy bride to kick back and let her friends take the wheel when it comes to planning.

But for some brides, thats a stressful proposition. Planning may not be your maid of honors forte: What if she struggles to get it all done? What if shes planned wall-to-wall activities for the day, but youd rather just have a chill night at a wine bar? What if she organizes a big blowout trip that some of your bridesmaids simply cant afford?

If youve had major What if? concerns like these or are a slightly Type A kind of gal its not a bad idea to plan your own bachelorette.

I think brides that have very high expectations or very specific wishes for what they want for their bachelorette party can benefit from planning themselves, said Lori Stephenson of LOLA Event Productions in Chicago. I think its pretty genius in that case. It isnt a bad thing to know what you want.

The pros? You get exactly what you want. The cons? The extra work. And if you like surprises, this limits the opportunity for that. (Though that would go in the pro column if you hate surprises.)