Imagine youre a bride or groom whose wedding date is fast approaching: Your stress levels are through the roof. When will those last few stragglers RSVP ? Why does your fiancs mom care so damn much about which table runners you pick? Without a doubt, your bank account has seen much better days.
Then, just when all the stress is starting to get to you, you look down at your phone and see a text from a guest: What exactly does black tie optional mean? LOL, dont know what to wear! Also, the invite didnt say adults only, so is it OK if we bring the kids?
Oh, hell no, it is not OK. As well-meaning as a guest might be, the last thing a person planning a wedding wants to do is field questions that have easy answers or will eventually be addressed on the wedding site or invitation.
There are so many ways to find answers to those questions, said Sarah Campbell , a wedding and event coordinator based in Brooklyn, New York. If its not on the save the date or invite, head on over to the couples wedding website or landing page where they are sharing information with their guests.
If you still have outstanding questions, reach out to someone close to the couple that may know the answer, like someone in the wedding party, she added.
Google wedding-specific dress codes, ask a friend whos also going, but dont bug the bride and groom, said Anita Dybala , founder and lead planner at Anita Dybala Events in New Jersey and New York.
Above all, if you happen to speak with a couple, remember to ask her or him how they feel, she said. Thats the one question they probably havent heard in a while.
Yep, thats almost the only acceptable question. To make things even clearer on this subject, we put together a handy list of questions below that you should never, ever bring up to a bride or groom right before the big day.
1. Can I bring my kids? Theyre well behaved for their age!
Unless little Harper was mentioned by name on the invitation envelope, shes in all likelihood not invited. The omission of a childs name is a subtle clue that its an adult-only affair .
2. What time is the wedding?
This one seems easy enough to find out yourself, no? Wait for the invitation to tell you, or peruse your pals very helpful wedding website. Most couples have them nowadays. There, you will find all the important details about the event, not to mention superfluous info on the wedding party. If theres no website, check the invitation or ask someone else whos going.
3. Whats the cost per plate?
If youre fishing around for answers to this one, youre probably operating under the cover your plate rule of wedding gift giving . Save yourself the headache and dont ask. As etiquette expert and wedding planner Xochitl Gonzalez told HuffPost a few years back, the rule is bunk . She used a dinner party analogy to explain why.
When you are invited to a dinner party, do you estimate the cost of groceries and alcohol and time spent cooking before you figure out what to spend on a bottle of wine? Of course not! she said. You pick up a bottle of wine you think everyone will enjoy and that you can afford.
Also, do you really want to ask a bride or groom for nitty-gritty details about their wedding budget? (After you get the cost of the chicken marsala plate, dont forget to add 28.25% for tax and gratuity!)
Heres a better rule: When looking for the right gift, experts say focus less on the dollar amount and more on these three things : your budget, your relationship to the couple and what you think they might like. If moneys extra tight right now, give them something within your budget and remind yourself that your presence is a present.
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