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Posted: 2024-02-15T10:45:28Z | Updated: 2024-02-15T10:45:28Z

Sex therapists are experts in a wide range of bedroom matters. Through talk therapy, they help their clients work through issues like low or mismatched libidos, performance anxiety, sexual shame and an inability to achieve orgasm, to name just a few. They can also help folks explore their sexuality, fantasies, kinks and non-monogamous relationship structures.

Based on their years of professional experience, we asked these sexperts what they personally avoid in the bedroom. Heres what we learned.

I would never try something new without a partners consent.

One of sex therapist Tom Murrays rules is to never experiment in the bedroom without talking to his partner and getting their approval first.

The realm of intimate relationships is wide and diverse, providing endless opportunities to discover joy, pleasure and connection. But exploring new ground without consent from both parties may cause unease, betrayals of confidence and even injury, Murray, author of Making Nice With Naughty, told HuffPost.

Having conversations about your sexual desires and limits fosters respect, ensures both parties are on the same page and builds anticipation, he said.

A good sexual relationship depends on this kind of conversation because it ensures that any exploration is grounded in permission and mutual curiosity, strengthening the connection and enhancing the experience for both parties, Murray added.

I would never fake an orgasm.

Sex therapist Mary Hellstrom , clinical supervisor at The Expansive Group, isnt one to put on a show and pretend shes having an orgasm.

Our culture is very results focused, even and especially when it comes to sex. Some of the best sex Ive had hasnt included a point of climax for me or my partner, she told HuffPost.

In fact, refusing to fake orgasms is a boundary shes set for herself.

[It] helps me to center my experience of pleasure and de-center the expectation that good sex always has to include an earth-shattering orgasm, she said. Less pressure equals more fun.