'A whole day off': Free adult day programs are as much for the caregiver as for the frail

Reach out. Don't wait too long.

If Kristen Ingram-Cotton can share one warning with families trying to manage an older adult's declining health at home, she says that'sit.

Ingram-Cotton runs a day program for dementia patients and other adults at Bow View Manor in Calgary. But the wait list can be months long.

"I get referrals for people and at that point they're in crisis mode, especially with dementia. There's a caregiver who is really not managing anymore," she said.

"That's really sad. They get prioritized and we try to get them in as fast as possible, but to avoid the crisis point, get (your loved one) in beforehand that would be my advice."

"Give it a try."

Alberta Health Services says it funds3,274 spaces in programs likethisacross the province, with roughly 80 per cent run under contract by various non-profits and other service providers.

Clients get referred through Home Care, and Ingram-Cotton saysthe shared waiting list can be even longer for specialty offerings such as the Chinese,Indo-Canadian or young-onset dementia programs.

And this is before Alberta sees an expected surge in aging seniors needinghelp as the baby boomer generation ages.

This February, the CBC team in Alberta has been hearing from manyfamily caregivers, several of whom flagged adult day programs as key to their ability to continuecaring for a loved one at home. Weset out to learn more.

Free, with optional lunch

The Brenda Strafford Foundation's programis on the main floor of the Bow View Manor, on the north bank of the Bow River. Families drop off a loved one in the morning. Others, living on their own, show up by cab and other transportation.

They comefor up to two days a week, giving them a chance to socialize outside the home andchallenge themselves with mini-golf, exercise and crafts. It's free, with anoptional $10 a dayfor the lunch.

Ingram-Cotton says challenging the brain like that slows the progression of disease in the older adult. But these programs can bejust as important for the family caregiver.

"They care for that person 24/7 and it can be a lot of work," she said."An adult day program is unique in that it's a whole day off.To have a whole day's break is really valuable."

Ingram-Cotton's programreturned to in-person meetings last July, requiring rapid tests and proof of vaccination for any visitors. They have two programs, one for older adults with dementia and a second wellness program for those whose cognitive abilities are stronger.

Mini-golf, singing and card games

Many of thedementia folk were chatty on a recentTuesday,drinking coffee and eating muffins.Then staff moved the chairs into a large circle for sitting exercises. Mini-golf and a singing program were scheduled for the afternoon.

Keith McColl, 82, retiredafter a career as a cargo supervisor with the airlines.

"I like to be with people and do things together, get to know them and they're like friends," he said, happily chatting about the program while admitting his short-term memory loss means he can't remember much of what happens.

He slipped back into the meeting room after the interview and immediately started dancing with a health-care aide.

Down the hall, AmirJessaniwas playing Memory, challenging himself to find card matches faster than his peers in the wellness program. Hemoved to Calgary in 1975 and worked at Tip Top Tailors for years before he retired.

He lives on his own and attends this program to get out of his condo.

"I'm very young at heart. I feel like I'm still in my 40s, maybe my 50s, you know? But I'm 78 years old," Jessani said.

Society has a hesitation around aging.

"But for me, it's not difficult because I'm open-minded. I take whatever I get offered," he said. "I didn't know about aging before. But you have to take it as it comes."

The CBC team in Alberta isfocusing this month on family caregiversthe husbands, wives,children and otherswho take on care of loved ones.Visitcbc.ca/familycareto read more.