Grieving family says government ignoring Indigenous suicide crisis

I had no words of comfort to say to my cousin.

I was only able to sit beside her in silence and witness her grief and sorrow, letting her talk and share as she was able.

My cousin had just lost her son-in-law to suicide.

She told us how he was a devoted father and kind partner to her daughter, and how she needs to be strong for her daughter and grandson.

People stopped by to offer their condolences.A small fire in the backyard was kept going to offer solace to those grieving.Smudge and prayers were offered and candles lit in his memory.

It was a stark contrast to the inside of the house.They had just celebrated her grandson's first birthday.Balloons and streamers were still hanging on the wall mocking the family with evidence ofhow their joy was short lived.

A month later, the same cousin's daughter died not by suicidebut, I would say, a broken heart.

Another loss, another funeral, way too soon.

This act of arson was actually a glaring cry for help.- Shannon Perez

Living with grief and tragedy is notnew to Indigenous people.

Soon after the funeral, God's Lake First Nation declared a state of emergency after four youth died by suicide.Throughout the summer, there were 22 attempts in that community.

First Nations youth are more than three times more likely to die by suicidethan non-Indigenous youth in Canada.

I think back to 2016, when a tragic fireburned the only grocery store and the band office in Shamattawa First Nation.The community's infrastructure was left in ruins. The fire was allegedly set by kids in the community.

In my heart, I believe this act of arson was actually a glaring cry for help.

ThisCBC Manitoba 2016 articlesaysShamattawa First Nation in 2015 faced a suicide crisisa year before the fire.

Attawapiskat First Nation in 2016 and Wapekeka First Nation in 2017 have shared in this experience.

In other words, God's Lake First Nation is not alone. And it's been well documented.

In June 2017, the federal governmentStanding Committee on Indigenous and Northern Affairsreleased a report calledBreaking Point: The Suicide Crisis in Indigenous Communities.

"When First Nations communities assume greater control over their economic, health, social, policing and educational services and have retained the use of Indigenous languages and related cultural infrastructure, they experience lower rates of suicide, overall," the executive summary says.

Building upon this statement and to counter this epidemic, it would be logical to implement the United Nations Declaration on the Rights of Indigenous Peoples.

Bill C-262 would have ensured that Canadian laws and policies would be in harmony with that declaration.

But in the summerof 2019, on National Indigenous Peoples Day, the Senate closed its session, thereby terminating the chance of Bill C-262 passing into law.

Are we waiting for another suicide pact or another tragic fire before the government (and by extension us, as itscitizens) does anything more than reports?

Literally, lives are at stake. Indigenous lives.- Shannon Perez

There have been so many inquiries, commissions and reportsthe Royal Commission on Aboriginal Peoples, the Aboriginal Justice Inquiry of Manitoba, the Truth and Reconciliation Commission, the inquiry into Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women and Girls, and again, the earlier mentioned report on suicide.

That report has 28 recommendations.The very first?

"That the Government of Canada work in partnership with Indigenous communities to facilitate the goal of self-determination and ensure communities have adequate resources to exercise their jurisdiction."

The second recommendation?

"That the Government of Canada recognize the Truth and Reconciliation Commission of Canada: Calls to Action and the United Nations Declaration on the Rights of Indigenous Peoples as foundational frameworks for Indigenous peoples to realize self-determination."

How is it that the government is not getting it?What is it going to take to act on all of these recommendations and advance them?

Literally, lives are at stake. Indigenous lives.

We cannot keep doing whatever it is we are doing. It's not working.- Shannon Perez

How can this crisis be raised during the federal election?How can the United Nations Declaration on the Rights of Indigenous Peoples be put back on the table?How can we get people to connect those dots?

It is so hard for people to see that the tangible act of suicide is a hard-core symptom of Canada's continuing colonizing practices.

We cannot keep doing whatever it is we are doing it's not working.

In the meantime, my cousin is back at home in her community after laying her daughter to rest.

I saw a smile on her face in one of her social media posts.

However, I've learned that this smile can disappear as quickly as the senate can close its session.

If you're experiencing suicidal thoughts or having a mental health crisis, there is help out there. Contact the Manitoba Suicide Prevention and Support Line toll-free at 1-877-435-7170 (1-877-HELP170) or the Kids Help Phone at 1-800-668-6868, or text Kids Help Phone at 686868.

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