'Everybody sees her exactly as a girl': 9-year-old Sask. girl embraces identity through makeup, ribbon skirts

Reece Okemaysim was only four years old when she told her mother that she wanted to be a girl.

Up until then, Reece, now nine,was raised as one of seven boys to their single mother, Rozanna Seeseequasis, in Beardy's and OkemasisCreeNation in Saskatchewan.

"When she started coming out at four years old, she started playing with her auntie's purses and high heels and wanting makeup," said Seeseequasis.

"I didn't discourage her by saying, 'You can't play with that,'" she said.

Reece also made her own clothing choices.

"She decided just on her own to wear pink and she got to choose on her own what to wear,"Seeseequasis said.

"I did teach her about the ribbon skirt," which istraditionally worn to Indigenous ceremonies and represents strength and womanhood, she said."Now she likes to wear ribbon skirts."

Pride parade grand marshal

Reece told CBCabout the first timeshe remembers wanting to be called a girl.

"I was at my auntie's, and I was like four," she told CBC by phone..

"She had a lot of purses, and I wore a bunch of shoes."

Reece's mother said that before her daughter got on the phone for the interview, Reece ran into the washroom and put on lipstick and re-did her hair.

Seeseequasisknew how to raise boys, she says, but because she was not much of a "girly girl"herself, her daughter had to goto her aunt's house to play with makeup and dress up.

Reece does both her own makeupand her mother's,andis always looking to social media for new makeup ideas.

"She's getting better at it," said Seeseequasis.

The family community ofBeardy's and OkemasisCreeNation,about 80kilometres north of Saskatoon,washome to Saskatchewan's first two-spirit Pride festival in 2016.

"She was grand marshalfor the Pride parade in Beardy's," Reece's mother told CBC.

"She had her own car to pick her up and drive her around, and they gave her money to buy a new dress."

Reece said she likes wearing dresses and wigs, butsometimes feels shy about all the attention she gets for being who she is.

Community members and the people at Reece's school are supportive, Seeseequasissaid, and nobody sees Reece as a boy.

"Everybody sees her exactly as a girl."

Concernsturn to support

That wasn't always the case, however.

"My grandmother wasn't really accepting of buying Reecegirls' clothes or calling her a girl. She didn't really accept it at first," saidSeeseequasis, who thinks her grandmother was not supportive at first because of the way she was raised in residential school.

"They had to be a certain way, live a certain way. Anything that was different wasn't right."

Suzanne Seeseequasis is Reece's chapan great-grandmother in Cree. She acknowledges that when she found out her great-grandchild wanted to be addressed as a girl,she was worried.

"I had mixed feelings. I didn't know [Reece] wanted to be that way, so I just let it be," said Suzanne, whohas a gentle voice and laughs easily.

As a child, Reece "wanted to be grabbing mom's makeup in the washroom, putting on makeup and wearing fancy clothes," she said.

The great-grandmother said that she felt afraid for Reece's future because of the stigma and violence that can follow transgender people throughout their lives.

"This is on my mind, and I get scared for [Reece]," said Suzanne, who was concerned some people wouldn't understand, and would feel her great-grandchild was "not supposed to be that way."

"When [Reece] grows up, what is going to happen?That is always on my mind."

Suzanne Seeseequasis is a survivor of St.Michael's Indian Residential School in Duck Lake, Sask. She said that her generation never heard about two-spirited or LGBTQ people.

"It was like, 'You can't talk about that. It's not the right way,' because the nuns and the priests follow 'the way it's supposed to be,'" she said.

Seeseequasis has since changed her views on Reece's identity after learning that there were always two-spirit people in Indigenous societies.

"We did have two-spirited people in our tribes," said Reece's mother. "When [Suzanne]heard that,she was like, 'Oh OK. Andnow,that is her perfect baby," she said.

"It's amazing to seehow she changed for her great-granddaughter."

New York modelling showdelayed by COVID

Reece also came very close to making her modelling debut in New York but that was delayed by the COVID-19 pandemic.

Seeseequasissaid she saw a call early last year for models for a two-spirit fashion show that was scheduled to happen inNew York, organized by B.C. fashion designer Jill Setah.

"I asked if there was an age limit, because their previous shows had younger girls," saidSeeseequasis. The designer asked to see a video of Reece walking.

"She saw it and she said, 'I want Reece. I need Reece.'"

However, COVID delayed the planned fashion show.

"It was going to be my first time on the plane and going to a big city," said Reece.

As for the future, when asked what she wants to be when she grows up, Reece doesn'thesitate.

"A police officer, because I can stop the bad people being mean to people."

Reece's mother said that shetries not to get in her daughter's way.

"I just let her pick what she wants to be. Reece is a real big diva."

Seeseequasis recently shared Reece's story on a Facebook community group dedicated to makeup, called Indigenous Cake Faces. The post received dozens of encouraging messages.

"As a fellow queer kid, thank you for supporting and loving Reece," said Shayla Jilleen Sayer-Brabantfrom Regina.

"I love all the supportive moms,"said Seeseequasis."It just made me cry."

Seeseequasissaid some mothers her age are not as supportive of their children.

"I didn't want to do that to my baby," she said.

"When she's sitting with me, she says, 'Oh, I just love you, mom. I want to be a mom just like you.'"

Seeseequasis said that as a young person she was often judged and told that she could not do certain things.

"I want my kids to feel like nothing can stand in their way, and they can be whatever they want and just be who they want."

When asked about what future wishes she has forReece, she saysone word:

"Freedom."